A Message of Encouragement for Recovering People Pleasers! | Record Time Ep. 117
A couple of months ago we discussed how we are allowed to have preferences – which of course seems obvious, yet (especially for folks with people pleasing tendencies) sometimes our preferences escape us, and we’re left feeling dissatisfied or frustrated.
Today we’re building on this idea of preferences. The Keepers of the Akashic Records share:
The journey to honoring your preferences is safe.
I loved how they acknowledge that the point at which we realize and admit that we have preferences and the point at which we actually honor those preferences are two different things. And those two different points might have a lot of distance between them, which could make for a bit of a journey!
If you’re someone who has strong people-pleasing tendencies, just being able to acknowledge the fact that you have preferences is already a really big milestone! Oftentimes, those who tend to people please aren’t even aware that they have preferences or desires, because they’re so deeply in the habit of bypassing their desires in order to please the other person or the group. It’s so easy to just let your preferences disappear into the background if you’re in the habit of “going with the flow” and just doing what others prefer in order to keep the peace. In other words, you are used to honoring other people’s preferences – not your own.
There’s so many different points on the journey to honoring your own preferences, from realizing you have a preference, to honoring your preferences when you’re alone, to honoring your preferences when you’re with other people. It’s a process to unwind a deep habit of people pleasing, and the Akashic Records are simply reminding us that this journey itself is safe. Wherever you are at within this process of learning to recognize and honor your own preferences, is completely okay.
It may feel tempting to judge yourself or shame yourself for not being able to speak up about your preferences and desires when you’re around other people. You might feel tempted to mentally belittle yourself for not being able to just say what you want, or for always doing what others want, even when you don’t really want to. The Keepers of the Records invite us into deeper self acceptance as we learn this new skill of honoring our preferences. If you’re still on the journey to learning to honor your preferences more often, be kind to yourself, and know that this is deep and difficult work!
Honoring your preferences around others more regularly could start by just acknowledging and honoring your preferences regularly when you’re by yourself. Notice how you make small decisions when you’re alone, and take time to hone in on what you really want before choosing things. Deciding what you want to eat for each meal is a great way to practice sensing into what you want and honoring that preference! Little steps make for big growth, and the journey itself is safe.
I’d love to know how this landed for you. Are you a recovering people pleaser? Are you still learning to recognize and honor your preferences? I’d love to know where you’re at on this journey! Let me know by leaving a comment or sending me a message!
And if you know anyone who might benefit from this message around people pleasing, share this with them and spread the goodness!
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